Help! He Goes Soft When I Put on a Condom

It happens..... the condom enters the picture and he get's soft.

There are several reasons for this happening, but to start, don't take it personally. Sensitivity is lost while wearing a condom AND sensitivity could be lost with the THOUGHT of wearing a condom. You can show him a new way! The first approach would be to look to increasing arousal in a playful way. If you are currently participating in oral sex with your partner, you may want to try putting on a condom with your mouth.

Here are the simple steps on how to put on a condom with your mouth:

1. Put the condom in your mouth between your lips and teeth, with the tip toward the back of your throat. Hold it in place with the tip of your tongue.
2. Cover your teeth with your lips. Position the condom over the head of his penis with your lips.
3. Now slowly inch by inch unroll the condom over the head. Purse your lips for grip and imagine that they are your fingers to the base of his penis, pursing your lips .
4. When you get the condom over the head any point thereafter, you can use your hand to roll down to the base.
5. On your way up, provide suction. This move is called Sucking The Mango Fruit. When you get to the top, run your tongue over the head of the penis. The head is the most sensitive part of the penis for most men.

If he starts to get soft with the site of a condom, raise and stroke his balls. Take as much of the penis in your mouth as you can and repeat the sucking as you come up and twirling of the head of the penis as described above.

If you know your lover well, do what he likes to stimulate him. If you don't know what he likes, try mutual masturbation and ask him to articulate it out loud. Pay close attention. You are receiving a crash course in what he likes.

Remember, men love to be acknowledged too. Tell him all the things you love/like about him and how his penis.

If you want to know more about arousal and the entire scenario of putting on a condom with your mouth, see my book "Oral Sex He'll Never Forget."

More about arousal and fun scenarios including mutual masturbation, see "Positions He'll Never Forget."

More in the Yahoo article below:

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/when-a-condom-makes-him-limp-1753500/