What does sex mean to you?

One of the first things we learn in sex school is that sex is just sex. We as human beings, add our own meaning to the word. Words are just symbols. The string of letters S-E-X form a word that we add our own meaning to, just as we add our own meaning to the act.

Sex means different things to different people. The meaning is developed over the years based on belief, attitude, values, experiences, and those who are most influential to us (parents, clergy, teachers, peers, significant others, etc.). What does sex currently mean to you? What does sex currently mean your partner? Is there a difference or a gap in the meaning? What would you like sex to mean or be like?

Discovering an individuals meaning of sex, is the first place I start in discovering how and where begin working with clients. Good new is that our meaning of sex can change and it should. All of us are all the product of the same collective sex negative culture, and most of us are oblivious to it. It's confusing, I know. But once we see our blind spots, we can make different choices and have the kind and quality of sex we want!

Low Sexual Desire Part 2: Developing an Awareness

My primary objective is to talk about having an awareness for your sexual concerns. If we bring awareness to them, we bring light, and with light, we can begin to take steps to heal and create the life we want.

I generally do not use clinical terms when coaching clients because it’s easy to develop anxieties based on the language alone. On a conscious or subconscious level, most of us are already feeling like damaged goods in the sex department.

General Causes of Low Sexual Desire:
Please note that this is just a general guideline.
• Drugs/Medication
• Alcohol
• Poor Nutrition
• Hormonal Changes
• Illness
• Fatigue
• Stress
• Depression
• Poor Health
• Low Self-Esteem/Self-Image
• Poor Body Image
• Lack of Skills
• Lack of Education
• Sexual Guilt/Shame
• Sexual Abuse
• Conflict or Arguing
• Loss of Trust With Partner
• Change in Sexual Identity

Living with low sexual desire may not be a problem for an individual or a couple, especially if both partners are low desire. If it is a concern identified by you or your partner, there is help and there is something you can do.

I believe that if sexual desire is low, it may be an indication that there is an imbalance in the body….in our life. Whether or not people seek help, or balance usually depends on their values and priorities in life.

More on addressing the issue next....